There was a recent encounter that happened toward me last week, retaining my ten month old daughter. The incident bothered me every moment I would think about it. I thought to myself, why be so hateful toward a child, what possibly could a child do to you to have you feel so indifferent about her. So as the incident continued to corrupt my thinking, I suddenly came to realize that this same exact issue happened before. Here’s a real life event as an example: Young man I’ll say in his early thirty’s in a relationship with a woman, during his and her relationship, another woman gets involved into this upcoming scandal. His current girlfriend later on finds out about the incident and his secret child, suddenly for her and her family had instantly changed. But here’s the giant twisted; later on in life him and his current girlfriend has become married. That’s an instant resolution for the wife’s children because they can see their dad every single day. But what about the other child? Is that child going to be able to see her dad like the other’s can frequently? Can that father come over and spend a couple of nights with him Monday through Friday? No, that child woke up every morning and after nap even at night waking up to go potty, afterwards he couldn’t sneak into his parents bedroom and sneak into their bed. Father wasn’t there to tell him that it’s going to be okay, there’s no monster in the closet. That secret child missed out on her potential father being around persistently, because of his commitment to his wife. Not that marriage is a horrid thing but it sort absence the stability of the father, of his choices. But due to him and the other woman relationship and how’d they use to interact with one another, determines something different. Only the years can tell the true frequency of his appearances in his son’s life. Life continued on and things seemed to have drifted, the once was a secret child has grown up to have children of his own. Because of the distant bond that the son’s father had between one another, created a whole new distance between the grandchildren. His son has grown to be a man himself carrying a broken bondage that should’ve been seal 2.5 decades ago. He’s grew up without a father and now his children growing up without a grandfather. But whose fault is it, can we blame the child or the father? Although the answer relies ill just blame it on the village, no one showed that father that was once a boy, how to be young man that will later be a elder of generations. He was misled and guided on the wrong path of the righteous way of life. But guess what, the village can no longer be blamed after awhile. He was no longer a boy he became a man eligible to make his own decisions right or wrong, it became his call on his life. I grew up without my father in my life, I went 25 years without him. It effects me most of the time when I see other people my age taking photos with their father beside them. I didn’t have both of my parents to teach me how to live, be a woman, a mother, how to take care of myself, how to love and not always feel attacked. I have a ruff up bringing without the both of them mentally and emotionally. My dad knew my location but didn’t fight for me to be in his life, him and mom left me behind. I’m now 25 with two girls and one on the way. My oldest also is a result of not having her potential father stable in her life. It hurts altogether to witness and to go through, it’s a pain that I, my daughter, that son have to endure for the rest of our lives. But you want to know the joy of it, someone else can come along and fill the spot of that absent parent, that person just restore the brokenness that I, my daughter and that son endured for a decade and decades to come. Jesus is the father to the father less, and he will for sure fill everyone of our needs and desires all we need to do a pray. When God is the father to the fatherless he will definitely restore and bless, I’m a living witness of his miracles. That once was a heartache has been voided, I don’t have to go heartbroken, my daughter doesn’t have to go heartbroken, that son has to broken hearted, and neither does you if you are fatherless or went fatherless. Live life to its full potential just know that God’s got it.
