I have three children, three girls, to be exact. When I had my first child I was sixteen years old, still in high school eleventh grade. I noticed after having my first child, my appearance dwindled and my world as a normal young schoolgirl, collided with the actual adult world. Yes, I had support but nothing changed the fact that I had this little person from my womb, in my face.
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I graduated high school on May 18, 2011, I was so happy and merry I wish that I could relive that moment again. At that time my child was one year of age. I still remember me on stage getting my diploma happy and weepy, when it was time for all the graduates to leave the sanctuary, there was my supportive sister holding my firstborn, that had fallen asleep in her arms. Oh, what memory to remember.
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Before I graduated I had received an early blessing, my sister helped me to get my own place of residence. I wasn’t that regular high school girl anymore, as a matter of fact, I was that plus, I thought I was the junk, lol. Life was sweet back then I was still so young, a mother, a high school graduate, and grown at the same time. Oh, yeah and also independently living.
Life continued to go on for me, of course, obstacles were still there, I didn’t have a car so I couldn’t whip from here to there, although I was catching the city bus from college to home and volunteering at different sites. I applied for college right after I graduated high school, I just had to make note of that. But still, without having transportation I still was fortunate to have a route.
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Life continued on I got older and so did my firstborn. Years went by and so did that high school student that graduated into the real world. Just when I and life had settled to an agreement of it’s defined print, I got pregnant with my second child with my boyfriend I’ve been with for six years. Seven to eight months later, I became pregnant again.
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Do you think life put it’s guard down for me? No, I had to suffer for some period of time due to the premature decisions that I’ve made. Now here I am with three children, three different age groups, unwed, and still youthful. How in the world am I going to live my life now, do the things I need to do, do the things I want to do? I guess doing what I want to do has flown out the window, when I had my first child, right? Nope, not true, not true at all!
Of course, when creating a family rather by choice or else, there are cautions that have to be paid close attention to if willing to proceed on board. I felt sort of stuck with limitations limiting my life. Will I be able to have time for myself, time to myself, or does the word myself even exist in my vocabulary. I’m very aware of the three blessings that are ultimate but what about me?
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Am I stuck being a fulltime mom is my life intentionally over, I don’t understand? For those of you that have been convinced that once becoming a parent, it’s the end of the world for you, that is sincerely not the case. Yes, it becomes a consequence for you if you are not a responsible parent/adult and not planning to be, knowing that you have children, but having children only titles you not curse you.
We as parents are still entitled to live our best lives, with or without the children’s other custodial parent. We are entitled to finish getting our college degrees, Ged’s, and for the younger generation, finish fulfilling getting your high school diploma. We are entitled to true love, a trip to Cancun, we are entitled to a happy ending just as everyone else.
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The moment someone wants to fix their lips and say, ”you just want to have fun”, you darn right, because just like you I still have hope to strive and be the person that I’m supposed to be.
Just Of Story: Live Your Life, Mom & Dad
